You’ve Built a Life Together. Now Let’s Rebuild the Connection.

You’ve built a successful life together—but emotionally, it feels like something’s missing.

You love your partner, yet the connection that once felt effortless is harder to reach. Maybe physical intimacy has faded, leaving you with unfulfilled desire or a quiet loneliness. Small conflicts might quickly escalate, or one of you tends to withdraw while the other becomes more critical—leaving you both feeling unseen and misunderstood. Sometimes, these moments even stir up old wounds from childhood or past relationships, making it harder to stay present with each other.

Whether you’re stuck in cycles of conflict, silence, or emotional distance, couples therapy can help you understand each other on a deeper level, communicate with empathy, and feel like a true team again.

Strengthen Your Relationship with Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT)

Even high-functioning couples get stuck. You’re smart, successful, and deeply committed—but somehow, the conversations keep turning into conflicts, or worse, silence. The love is still there, but the connection feels strained.

If you find yourselves:

Arguing about the same issues over and over
Struggling to communicate without defensiveness or shutdown
Feeling more like roommates or business partners than romantic partners
Wanting closeness but not knowing how to get there

…you’re not alone. These patterns are common, especially for couples where one or both partners tend to over-function, avoid conflict, or bottle up emotions.

How Couples Therapy Can Help

As a certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist in Costa Mesa, I use EFT—a highly researched, structured approach to help partners understand their emotional patterns, break painful cycles, and reconnect from a place of trust and safety.

Rather than offering quick communication tips, EFT gets to the root of disconnection by helping you uncover the fears, longings, and emotional needs that often go unspoken but drive reactivity and distance.

In our work together, you’ll learn how to: · Recognize the negative cycle you’re stuck in—and step out of it · Express deeper emotions in ways that bring your partner closer · Respond to one another with empathy and emotional availability · Rebuild safety, closeness, and intimacy

This isn’t about assigning blame—it’s about learning how to turn toward each other again with honesty, curiosity, and care.

Therapy for High-Achieving Couples

I specialize in working with couples where one or both partners are high-achievers—people who appear strong and capable on the outside, but inside may feel overwhelmed, anxious, or disconnected. If you’ve built a life of success but feel emotionally alone in your relationship, therapy can help you rebuild trust, rekindle intimacy, and truly feel like a team again.

You don’t have to keep having the same fight. Couples therapy is a space where real change happens—where each of you can feel seen, supported, and safe to show up fully.

Your Next Chapter Starts Here

Frequently Asked Questions about Couples Therapy

What is couple’s therapy?

Couples therapy is a safe, supportive space where partners come together to improve communication, resolve conflicts, rebuild trust, and strengthen emotional and physical intimacy. With the guidance of a trained couple’s therapist, partners learn to understand each other’s needs, break out of negative cycles, and create a more secure and connected relationship.

How do I know if my partner and I need couples therapy?

You don’t have to wait for a crisis to benefit from couple’s therapy. Many couples seek support when they notice:

Frequent arguments or miscommunication.

Feeling more like roommates than partners.

Disconnection or lack of intimacy.

Ongoing resentment, criticism, or defensiveness.

Trust issues after betrayal or hurt.

Struggles balancing work, parenting, and partnership.

Couples therapy can help whether you’re in conflict, feeling distant, or simply want to strengthen an already good relationship.

What approach do you use in couples therapy?

I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a research-backed model proven to help couples create lasting change. EFT helps partners identify negative cycles, understand the fears and needs driving conflict, and develop new ways of responding with empathy, validation, and care. This process builds trust, safety, and deeper connection.

Can couples therapy really help if one of us shuts down or avoids conflict?

Yes. Many couples get stuck in “pursuer–withdrawer” cycles, where one partner pushes for connection and the other pulls away. EFT is particularly effective for this pattern because it helps both partners feel safe, understood, and more willing to re-engage in the relationship.

Is couples therapy only for married couples?

Not at all. Couples therapy is for any partnership — married, dating, engaged, or long-term. It’s about building healthy, fulfilling relationships regardless of legal or cultural status.

Will couples therapy fit into our busy lives?

Yes. Sessions are offered in-person in Costa Mesa, California and virtually for Arizona and California couples, making it easier to access therapy no matter your schedule. Couples have the option to choose intensive sessions for deeper work that fits into their week without feeling rushed.

What results can we expect from couples therapy?

Every couple is unique, but many report:

Fewer arguments and more effective communication.

Feeling like a team again instead of adversaries.

Greater emotional and physical intimacy.

Rebuilt trust and security after hurt or distance.

More joy, connection, and hope for the future.

How do we get started?

The first step is scheduling a consultation. This gives us the chance to discuss your relationship goals, answer questions, and create a plan that works for both of you. Couples therapy is an investment in your relationship and can be one of the most meaningful steps you take together.

Your Next Chapter Starts Here

You Don’t Have to Face This Alone

You can build a relationship that feels safe, connected, and full of trust. Even if old wounds and conflict have left you stuck, healing and closeness are possible. If you’re ready for couples therapy that creates real change—not just conversation—Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) may be the next right step.

Let’s Work Together